Today, at school, I was walking to Spanish class when I heard something that really irritated me. Two older boys were walking past me, and one of them said something to the other one, and he responded with, “Man, that’s gay!”
I really wanted to just turn around and say, “Since when is ‘gay’ an insult?” But then, I realized that these boys were both well over six feet tall and probably juniors or seniors in high school, and that it would be in my best interest, safety-wise, not to say anything. So, I decided to do what every other teenage girl does when she wants to avoid getting socked in the jaw by an adult-sized teenage boy: rant about it on my blog.
But seriously, why is anything considered even remotely feminine stigmatized by guys? When a girl dresses like a boy, most people don’t really give it a second thought (that’s not to say that tomboys don’t get bullied; they sometimes do, which absolutely stinks, so bullies, please stop it). However, if a guy (gasp!) doesn’t do sports or takes up a traditionally “feminine” hobby like dance, theatre, music, or visual arts, the other guys give him a pretty hard time. They call him “gay” or a host of other names that are far too inappropriate to put online for young children to see.
But since when is being gay a bad thing? Since when is femininity weak?
Just because someone is more feminine, it doesn’t mean that they’re not strong. In fact, I think that people who identify as feminine are extremely strong for having to put up with society constantly telling them they’re worthless. Every single day, girls and women overcome adversity and push back against the notion that they’re incapable of greatness because they are. I also think that boys and men who take on more traditionally feminine roles, such as being an artist, dancer, performer, or stay-at-home father, have a tremendous amount of courage. Despite the odds, they are staying true to their hearts.
I would like to close out this post by giving a shout out to everyone who lives life on their own terms, according to what they feel they should do. You are brave, powerful, beautiful, kind, and lovely. Don’t ever change.